I have heard this many times before an interview, presentation or event. Personally I think the word fail is very negative. I mean, does failing make you a failure? I really hope not because I fail regularly as a parent and look at it as a learning curve on my journey as a mum.

However, there is no denying that preparation can help and make things easier. This Sunday hundreds of runners will complete the London Marathon. Weeks and months of training, following exercise and eating plans all to enhance their performance and lessen the risk of injury.

So why is it many pregnant mums do not feel the same about preparing for birth? Lately I have spoken to lots of mums-to-be who are fearful about birth, mainly because the stories you hear are the negative ones and what’s shown on TV is drama.

Birth is amazing. Women carrying and growing new life is incredible. We need to celebrate pregnancy and birth and not be frightened of failing in some way. Knowing the sensations and intensity of birth is you and your body delivering your baby.

I didn’t think I needed to prepare for my first pregnancy. During those nine months I believed that because I was strong and had dealt with everything life threw at me with determination and strength, birth was going to be a breeze. I was adamant that my body would bounce back into my jeans within a few days and my baby would be the one who slept beautifully (yep, I actually thought that!). I went into that birth thinking “How hard can this really be?”. What I did not know was that I would experience feelings and sensations that I had never felt before. I was alive, but I didn’t know how to breathe and I certainly didn’t know how to let go and flow with what was happening.

Baby number two was different.
I was fortunate to be educating as well as attending pregnancy yoga. I prepared myself as best I could and boy did it pay off. Birth preparation comes in many forms: yoga, pilates, antenatal classes, hynobirthing etc.

Looking after your body and baby is important but birth prep is more than that. Attending classes brings you into contact with other mums, building a network that will help you before and after birth (whether you’re a first-timer or mum of five). Learning about what to expect mentally and physically lets you know that not fitting into your old jeans after a few days or having a baby who doesn’t sleep doesn’t make you a failure. It makes you normal!

BabyFit will be with the Pregnancy & Parenthood team at the Bump & Beyond and Toddler Fair on 30 April 2017 at the Norfolk Showground, where I will be talking about birth preparation and breath.
Debbie x

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